Why would anyone bother about the wedding rehearsal dinner when there isn't even enough time to complete all wedding-related tasks as the big day comes closer?
The rehearsal dinner isn’t part of any wedding rule book, but then again, even the so-called rules of wedding planning have been broken from time to time.
Jane and Michael of the TV Series Jane the Virgin in their church wedding rehearsal with Jane’s grandmother, mother, and father. Photo via TV Fanatic
Small and intimate weddings don’t normally require a wedding rehearsal dinner since there are fewer people involved. Bigger and formal weddings require greater coordination. Here, a wedding rehearsal dinner would be warranted to ensure that things run smoothly.
Celebrity wedding planner David Tutera is every bride’s wedding planner. No one can dispute his attention to detail and ability to save the day. Here he is in one of the episodes of Unveiled, his own TV show. Photo via We TV
Let your wedding planner help you in the rehearsal dinner. Although the rehearsal dinner is for updates and reminders for everyone involved in the wedding, they might get too caught up in the wedding high to remember the little details. If you have a wedding planner, include him/her in the wedding rehearsal dinner.
A lot of wedding rehearsal dinners take place a day before the wedding. It’s better to set it two days before the wedding to give everybody time to relax before the big day.
However, if the night before the big day is really all you’ve got, keep dinner down to just 2 hours at most. Eat a hearty dinner, have a little fun, but get your points across quickly. Save your energy for the big day!
What to Take Up During Wedding Rehearsal Dinner
Your wedding planner can cover this for you but it would still be good to know what’s going on. Here are the things you should discuss with the wedding party.
Wedding Rehearsal Dinners are not just for Rehearsals
Wedding rehearsal dinners are not just for last-minute wedding preparations. They are also the perfect time to celebrate an alternate version of your wedding. Weddings, although solemn and intimate, tend to be strict and formal. It’s a huge day and you want all good things to happen in one day but reality dictates that that’s not always possible.
Use the wedding rehearsal dinner as a time to kick back and relax before the big day. Be inspired by this idea from A Practical Wedding.
If you’re getting hitched in a small ceremony, bring in a big, casual party days before your wedding. If you’re gonna go casual on your actual wedding, incorporate some formalities in your rehearsal dinner if you have those fantasies. Most of all, don’t forget to relax and have fun!